Why Are Some Men Afraid of A Good Woman?

You're beautiful, confident, spiritually centered, intelligent, sexy, and emotionally healthy, yet men are afraid to date you and you may wonder why. You're not broken, nor are you looking for someone to "complete" you, you desire companionship above all. You've been waiting for an intimate, meaningful, monogamous connection with someone who desires the same. Your intentions are pure and you simply want a life partner to love and be loved by.

You see and know women who have none of the things you have going for yourself, yet men flock to them like a moth to a flame. Although you don't suffer from a shortage of male attention, you seem to only attract the ones who don't want commitment. They label you as "too good to be true". You have even asked yourself, "what's wrong with me?"

Well, sis, let me be the first to tell you that majority of the time, the only thing wrong with you is that you are the epitome of the "Mrs. Right" prototype living in an age of time where men are happily seeking Mrs. Wrongs. They value the illusion of fake personas and are turned off by a genuine woman who knows her worth, and wont settle for disrespect in any form.

I write this post based on my personal experiences, as well as my observations of other women's experiences in society. A lot of men come across a good woman and they run from them. They actually verbalize that they are afraid of these women who come with no ill intentions, only wanting to love and build with them. In my opinion and experience, they are afraid because subconsciously they know they have no intentions of treating her like she deserves to be treated, and the consequences thereof are the real thing they fear. They encounter intelligent women and it intimidates and disappoints them because they are thinking about all of their games and gaslighting that she will clearly see through when other women who aren't as smart and spiritual didn't.

I've personally had my share of encountering men who are afraid to love and be loved by a good woman. Those who are not up to the task of self evaluation and growth are plenty in number. As soon as I hear a man say they are afraid or intimidated by me, I'm instantly turned off and marking him off my list of potential mates. Self confidence is an admirable and attractive trait to me, and I'm turned off when I encounter a man without it.

Even if when he meets you, he feels that you deserve the world and he knows he doesn't currently posses the mental, financial, and emotional stability he needs to give it to you, if he has self confidence, then he knows that he is capable and willing to rise to the occasion. If his intentions are pure, you will be a welcomed muse in his life that instantly inspires him to better himself as a man. He will recognize that your presence incepted thoughts of growth and elevation in his mind, and if he has good intentions towards women, he will see the benefit of having a woman that he feels he doesn't deserve.

We choose to look at the glass half empty or half full. Perspective is key. A man can choose to look at a good woman as someone who makes him feel insecure because of his self observed inadequacies, or he can choose to look at her as the inspiration and motivation he has been waiting for in his life to raise the standards he has for himself.

I hear many black men speak of black women as if we are supposed to make everything easy for them. They complain about how black women "nag" a man. That is his OPINION of what she is doing when she calls him out on his errors. That is how he chooses to perceive it. He will blame this black woman for his chosen perception of the situation of seeing it as tearing him down, and wont even consider her true intention, which is to build him up. He will then go find a woman who doesn't "nag" as much and will choose to perceive that this new woman loves him more and is the better choice. Only someone who truly loves you and believes in you will invest the energy it takes to push you to better yourself. Anyone who you call your mate that allows you to stay stagnant and complacent is someone whom you should question their true intentions of being with you.

These men who are afraid to date you are forced to see their insecurities when evaluating themselves standing next to a woman like you. They feel inadequate and insecure because your adequacy and security forces them to ponder on their own lack thereof. Most men, when recognizing their inadequacies, because they don't wish to better themselves, will run from you knowing that you are a good catch.

It is not a woman's job, or anyone's job, to tap dance and cater to their mate's insecurities. They are YOURS, and it is YOUR job to deal with them. As long as your mate is respectful and considerate, they are doing their part to help you. Helping one face and get over their insecurities isn't them helping you hold on to them by having to do, or not do various things so you don't feel insecure. If they have chosen to be your mate, and give you love honor and respect in public and private, that should be one of the few things they are asked to do in regards to YOUR insecurities.

If a man has every intention of treating a woman right and sincerely desires a union with a good woman, he will run to, and not from her. If he wants a woman that will help him choose growth, then he should hope to end up with a woman he feels he doesn't deserve, yet she chooses him. A man with good intentions will meet her and feel like he has hit a lottery that no one else knew about playing. He will feel as if she is everything he has been waiting for and from day one, he wont allow anything to mess up a chance with you. He knows your type only comes along once in a blue moon and he has been patiently waiting for you. He will encounter you and know that, although you are a great catch, you are a single solitary diamond because your brilliance was blinding to other men, and you have been reserved for him by the spirit world. He will feel as if you came to help him heal whatever he must so that his journey on this plane of existence can be a harmonious one.

Men should, when meeting a woman who is different from all the rest in a good way, choose to look at it as someone or something in the spirit realm led you to her for a reason, and that same something also led her to you for a reason. Just because her outside looks perfect, and she seems to have it all figured out and be out of your league, you too have something she needs to heal. If you were chosen, and your intentions and heart are pure, then know that whether you feel like it or not, you are good enough for her. Trust that as a man, because your intentions are pure, that you have attracted the feminine version of you. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. If you as a man know that you are a good catch, and feel that you deserve a good woman, then trust that based on this law, if you exist, so does your equal opposite. Yet when finding out that she too isn't perfect, you must and can love her despite her flaws, as she will love you with all your flaws.

If a man or a woman say they are afraid of you, and you know you are a being who has pure intentions when matters of the heart are concerned, run fast in the opposite direction and cut all ties. They are afraid because they know they are going to hurt you. They know that they aren't ready to settle down. They still want to lavishly bathe themselves in the lust they have for Mrs./Mr. Wrongs. That behavior, on the subconscious level, says they still feel they deserve to be treated badly. They have subconsciously judged themselves and found themselves guilty and unworthy. They are still serving their self-imposed sentence from the many crimes of the heart that they have, and are still committing, which is why they know they do not deserve you. They are afraid that you are karma coming to collect her dues.

Believe them when they say they are scared/intimidated, and don't pursue anything else after expressed "fear or disbelief" of your unique existence. Your reflection will appear sooner or later. You both will know and be ready to go all in for what you both know is a once in a lifetime kind of love that transpires between two beings with pure intentions and desire to find someone worthy of the enrapturing love that you know you're waiting to give! Continue to be patient!❤️